Not all gay activists support gay marriage

They’re here and they’re queer. But don’t assume they’re all jumping on the gay marriage bandwagon, Katie Couric. The Against Equality collective — a group of gay activists who oppose gay marriage — has been “quietly assembling a digital archive to document the critical resistance to the politics of inclusion.” The result? A compelling pocketbook, Against Equality: Queer Critiques of Gay Marriage.

Edited by gay activist Ryan Conrad, and introduced by Yasmin Nair, a Chicago-based academic, the easy-to-read resistance publication sets out to empower information-seeking people, from poor rural folks to technologically disadvantaged gays living outside of North America’s gay establishment.

Many middle-class leftists will find the new book very jarring.

Take section two, an open letter to LGBT leaders who are pushing gay marriage. “Hello. I’m Kate Bornstein, and I’ve got a great deal to say to you, so you deserve to know more about me: I write books about postmodern gender theory and alternatives to suicide for teens, freaks and other outlaws. I’m a feminist, a Taoist, a sadomasochist, a femme, a nerd, a transperson, a Jew, and a tattooed lady.”

So why is Bornstein criticizing gay marriage? “When lesbian and gay community leaders whip up the community to fight for the right to marry, it’s a further expression of America’s institutionalized greed in that it benefits only its demographic constituency,” argues the passionate activist. “There’s no reaching out beyond sexuality and gender expression to benefit people who aren’t just like us, and honestly… that is so 20th Century identity politics.”

But is Katie Couric ready to hear politically-direct voices opposed to same-sex marriage? Is Oprah willing to open her heart and therefore her ears to marginalized trans-people and their journeys? Or does “tolerance” mean ignoring critical-thinking minority voices?

Competitive identity politics

As a defender of politically-incorrect speech, I see Against Equality as more than a book: it’s an important step away from the groupthink strangling America’s white-majority gay establishment.

In a traditional middle-class, left-wing setting, it is thought that standing with “minorities” (or the media’s favorite minorities) makes one “tolerant” and/or “compassionate” — sometimes even “deep” and “sophisticated.” Moreover, in media-land, gay marriage activists allegedly speak for sexual minorities. After all, they’re a minority speaking for a minority, right?  And yet, when minorities within minority groups question their supposed leaders, media elites turn anti-minority. Or play deaf.

Thankfully, though, marginalized voices dominate Against Equality. In section five, Kenyon Farrow asks: “Is Gay Marriage Anti-Black???” He criticizes conservative religious leaders, but that’s not to suggest he loves the mainstream media or the white-majority gay establishment.

“I, as a black gay man, do not support this push for same-sex marriage,” he asserts. “Although I don’t claim to represent all black gay people, I do believe that the manner in which this campaign has been handled has put black people in the middle of essentially two white groups of people, who are trying to manipulate us one way or the other.”

  • b2bg2g

    A marriage is a relationship between two people. Society shouldn’t be dictating what two people can or can’t do when no one else is hurt in the process.
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  • Pizza Trays

    johno413: Ben-Peter here. You raise some interesting points – and the insemination/surrogate issue is set to create yet more controversies. Selecting the “perfect specimen” disturbs me on a number of levels.

    I don’t see how two men raising a baby without breast milk and bonding time with his or her natural birth mother is good for a child’s psychobiological development either. It appears cruel.

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  • johno413

    I live in MA, where gay marriage was, is, and will be a huge and divisive issue because of how it has been handled by advocates, the elected class, and the state courts. From what I hear casually and in press from advocates, marriage became the big fight for many for two reasons: It gives other rights to couples automatically beyond a ceremony, such as the right to be next of kin, etc., and it pisses off all the right people, namely the religious right. Once conservatives and the religious right in particular began to concede on some “special” civil ceremony bestowing mostly all the same rights as marriage, the fate for pushing for marriage was locked in.

    The end game for many of the political activists for gay “anything” (rights, marriage, et al), is for gayness to be accepted as a normal and accepted alternative in total. I’ve been told directly by a local advocate group leader that, for example, children must be exposed from as early an age as possible that being gay is no different than being heterosexual in all circumstances. Marriage and the ability to adopt or procreate (through surrogates or insemination) is the cornerstone. Exposure and teaching is another cornerstone.

    In my experience many of the advocates and activists will not settle for anything but total equality in every aspect. They do not want any “distinctions” made or any difference highlighted. It’s nice to hear that opposing voices are being lifted only to balance out the debate and the energy put into the topic. It will be interesting to see how it evolves.

  • EinRand

    Großartig !

    Every time I hear someone parrot the line that gays are unequal unless a religion (that professes their damnation) condones their marriage, I think of Kurt Vonnegut Jr.’s story of Harrison Bergeron. Big Brother and its minion the Handicapper General will make us all equal.

    The ‘Gay Agenda’, is not supported by individuals who seek to be left unmolested by the state. It is however, supported by those that seek ‘social equality’, which is completely different from equality before the law.

    I am proudly UnEqual to everyone else on this planet. I am superior at some abilities and qualities and inferior at others in comparison to every other. My government is the organization that should treat me the same as every one else.

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