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‘Why do we let girls dress like that?’ WSJ column asserts that teen girls look ‘like prostitutes’

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Laura Donovan
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In her recent Wall Street Journal column, “Why Do We Let Girls Dress Like That?”, Jennifer Moses delivers a common argument that young girls of today are naughtier than their mothers and grandmothers were at the same age.

The piece claims mothers of a liberated generation struggle with the decisions of their own pasts as well as their daughters’ anxiousness to mature and engage in adult activity. The girls want to don “plunging necklines, built-in push-up bras, spangles, feathers, slits and peek-a-boos”, and their desire to grow up leads Moses to ask: “Why do so many of us not only permit our teenage daughters to dress like this—like prostitutes, if we’re being honest with ourselves—but pay for them to do it with our AmEx cards?”

Penny Nance, CEO of Concerned Women for America, told The Daily Caller that she’s in accordance with Moses’ assertion.

“As a mother of an early teen daughter I whole-heartedly concur with the author’s alarm over the early sexualization of our kids,” Nance told TheDC. “Science and common sense tell us it’s unhealthy.”

Nance added that the MTV reality television show “Sixteen and Pregnant”, which follows the lives of pregnant teens, sets a negative example for young girls and could be a contributing factor to the “sexualization” of adolescent females.

“We moms need to be the draw a hard line against a culture that lauds ’16 and pregnant!’” Nance told TheDC.

Moses tied girls’ trouble-making tendencies to lax parenting methods, as lots of mothers and fathers prefer to be best buddies their children rather than authoritative figures.

“The girls in the sexy clothes are the fast girls,” Moses wrote. “They’ll have Facebook pictures of themselves opening a bottle of Champagne, like Paris Hilton. And sometimes the moms and dads are out there contributing to it, shopping with them, throwing them parties at clubs. It’s almost like they’re saying, ‘Look how hot my daughter is.’ But why? ‘I think it’s a bonding thing,’ she said. ‘It starts with the mommy-daughter manicure and goes on from there.’”

Rachel Simmons, author of “The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence” and New York Times bestseller “Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls”, told TheDC that clothing choices mean nothing about a person.

“What a girl wears never makes her a bad person,” Simmons told TheDC. “Clothing does not suggest behavior; it suggests…clothing. There is nothing inherently wrong with girls wearing revealing clothing. The problem is why they’re wearing it. Girls are targeted by billions of marketing dollars that tell them their worth comes from their sexuality. When girls define their value in terms of how sexy they look to others, they don’t get to think about what feels sexy to them. Dressing becomes about how they look rather than how they feel. Not every girl who dresses like this is overly invested in others’ opinions, but many of them are.”

Simmons added that parents of these days tend to let certain behavior slide.

“[P]arenting is much more permissive today than in earlier generations, and not just when it comes to clothing,” Simmons told TheDC. “That said, parents allow their daughters to dress provocatively because there may not be much else for sale at the stores. Visit a store girls love, like Forever 21, and you’ll see what I mean. Is it really fair to place the blame entirely on mothers’ shoulders? These stores establish trends for girls. So if the popular or cool kids are wearing it, and your daughter tells you that she’ll be a loser if she doesn’t have it, it’s not easy for a parent to say no.”

  • Chris

    Thank you, Laura, for writing this article. It’s been a topic in our house for several years and am so glad to know we aren’t the only ones who have noticed the decline of young girls especially. Our conversation started a few years ago when it was discussed how this generation of young gals have no boundries in terms of sex and advertising themselves for that purpose. While I am sure it’s not the entire reason (as someone mentioned the way boys dress, too), but these girls were in their formative years under the presidency of Bill Clinton, who said oral sex wasn’t sex, and well, I don’t need to go into all of that fiasco. What kind of example did that set for all these young people? Not a good one. If it’s okay for the CIC, they say, then it MUST be okay, right? I agree with others here that it’s also up to the parents to grow some kahones and draw the line with their kids. In spite of the “peer pressure” or “culture pressure”, there ARE kids who do not dress like this (girls and boys) and are doing well in school and are socially popular to boot.

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  • robjh1

    Girls? Why do we let our boys dress the way they do with sagging pants? Why do we let our teens walk around with potty mouths and cocky attitudes? It’s all a part of the new pop culture and freedom of expression. And we think the Middle East wants this garbage? HECK no! They only want the freedom or ability to be able to own a home and control their destiny. They want no part of our no morale culture.
    “and we are not saved…”

  • rockhard

    I feel really bad for these young girls because they don’t have the real mothers and fathers who are mature enough to know how to be parents. these teen girls most likely have mothers who themselves dress like whores and fathers who still play video games like teen boys.

    As an immigrant to this country from south Europe I could see the difference greatly between American parents and my parents for example..my American friends parent acted like kids and not parents
    their children couldn’t careless how they acted in front of the parents or the girls how they dressed.

    I’m in my 20′s and have 3 sisters they would never ever wear revealing clothes not only because my parents wouldn’t let them but because they would be ashamed to dress like whores and let my father and mother see them like that.,.because of the way they are raised. it doesn’t matter what other kids wear as a parent you have the responsibility to teach your children right from wrong, if you really love your daughters you would protect and discipline them for their own future good in life. girls who dress like whores were treated like whores, and what damn parents what that for their girls ? wake up and be a real father and mother.

    • Carl Spackler

      Hey Rock, could we see the sisters?

      • rockhard

        They are beautiful and not used as trash, something sadly to many Americans allow for their daughters, and sisters…where are the brothers of these girls ? besides the parents? never mind prob getting high to know or care about there families. or sisters..sad state…

    • thephranc

      The average age of a video gamer is over 30 and has been for years.

  • riseabove

    Ssshhhh!!! Don’t let Michelle Obama see the article or we’ll all be wearing burlap bags!